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Tuesday, May 05, 2009

I just finished watching They Kissed Again (ISWAK 2). Before you start mentally linking me to one of the S-Factor girls or chiding my silly indulgence, just read this (or don't).

As a sequel, and we all know how sequels are like, I wasn't all that excited about watching it. Especially since the hype was all over a year ago and my friend who lent me the DVD, practically gave it to me without watching it because she couldn't be bothered to watch it. However, while it possibly can be labeled as typical idol drama fare, watching it made me a happy girl.

I admit, Im a sucker for happy endings and romance, and this show was basically that. To make things interesting, they obviously had to insert some storms into their marriage (they got married at the end of the first show, before they started university). However, unlike the storms in most adult marriages as depicted in the media, the focus was on how 2 very different people learnt to love one another in a manner the other could understand and to understand the other person's way of loving him/her. Misunderstandings arose due to insecurities when the girl failed to see how much her husband loved her, thinking that she loved him way more than he loved her. I believe many people who have been in a relationship can testify how often that happens.

The book "The 5 love languages" is widely read and I believe if the characters read this book, it would have saved them from learning it the hard way (but it made for good tv). An acquaintance of mine who read the book, asked what happens if she and her parents have different love languages. After talking with her for a while, it seemed as though she wanted her parents to show her love in her love language. Whilst I only know the gist and have not actually read the book, I do not think that that is how the knowledge should be applied.

If your way of showing love differs from how the other person feels loved, then you ought to try changing your way of showing love to suit the other person. Also, if the way you feel loved is different from how the other person demonstrates love, learn to look out for and appreciate the other person's way of loving you.

What does it mean to love? To make oneself feel good or to make your loved one feel good? A love that centres on your own comfort and feelings is a selfish love (if we can still call it love). But a love that put the other's interests before one's own, is the love that God demonstrated when He gaves us His Son and is the love that we are called to emulate.

Anyways back to about the show, the picture painted is that of 2 very different, yet perfectly complemented persons. This kind of pairing is also seen in another of my favourite shows - Nodame Cantabile. However, regardless of the number of idol dramas I've watched, I am still down-to-earth enough to know that such situations are only seen in reel life. But is it really too much to look for someone who is perfect for me, just as I am perfect for him? Someone who needs me just as much as I need him? Someone who loves me just as much as I love him?

Lydea blogged at 12:35 AM

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